Pals' Loved Ones' Support
Resources and support for those who have lost a loved one to cancer
The PMP Pals’
Network provides two dozen international resource groups for patients and their
families.
Participants in the Pals’ Resource Groups often develop personal friendships through mutual support;
many of our “Pals” have actively participated in the PMP Pals’ Network for over a decade!
We exchange helpful information via telephone calls, email, personal visits and SKYPE.
The Pals’ Loved Ones Support and Resource Group was developed to help spouses, partners, parents, siblings and children cope with the loss of a loved one, due to cancer.
Memorials for our Pal loved ones are posted on the MEMORIALS page, under “About Us” www.pmppals.org
Become a "Pal" and connect with this, or any other of our Support and Resource Groups!
Participants in the Pals’ Resource Groups often develop personal friendships through mutual support;
many of our “Pals” have actively participated in the PMP Pals’ Network for over a decade!
We exchange helpful information via telephone calls, email, personal visits and SKYPE.
The Pals’ Loved Ones Support and Resource Group was developed to help spouses, partners, parents, siblings and children cope with the loss of a loved one, due to cancer.
Memorials for our Pal loved ones are posted on the MEMORIALS page, under “About Us” www.pmppals.org
Become a "Pal" and connect with this, or any other of our Support and Resource Groups!
Recommended Reading
The Caregiving Wife's Handbook
Compassionate Strategies, Stories of Success
by Diana Denholm PhD, LMHC
The Caregiving Wife's Handbook aims to help women get through their husbands' illness and death with compassion, emotionally whole and without regret by helping them communicate clearly—and in steps—about issues affecting this unique caregiving relationship.
Families Share Support
The Bogdanoff family participates in our Loved Ones' Support Group in memory of Jon
Connect with other Pals
Support for the widowed
Fred and Anita each lost their spouses to cancer, yet now help other widows and widowers cope with loss
Families Help Others
Recommended Reading: Coping with Loss
Stages of Coping with Grief
Support for Children Who Have Lost a Parent
kidskonnected.org
Recommended Reading: Helping Children Overcome Grief
Children and Grief: When a Parent Dies
Children and Grief: When a Parent Dies [Paperback]
by J. William Worden
Description provided by Amazon.com:
"Drawing upon extensive interviews and assessments of school-age children who have lost a parent to death, this book offers a portrait of the mourning process in children. The volume presents major findings from the Harvard Child Bereavement Study and places them in the context of previous research, shedding new light on both the wide range of normal variation in children's experience of grief and the factors that put bereaved children at risk. The book also compares parentally bereaved children with those who have suffered loss of a sibling to death, or of a parent through divorce, exploring similarities and differences in these experiences of loss. A concluding section explores the clinical implications of the findings and includes a review of intervention models and activities, as well as a screening instrument designed to help identify high-risk bereaved children."
Recommended Reading: Helping Children Overcome Grief
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The Barr-Harris Center serves children who have lost a parent through death, divorce, or abandonment. It provides diagnostic evaluations, short- or long-term treatment if necessary, and parent guidance. Barr-Harris staff also make educational presentations and provide consultation to schools, community agencies, hospitals, etc. The Barr Harris website includes books for pre school through high school age children, who can benefit from assistance during the grieving process.
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The Barr-Harris Center serves children who have lost a parent through death, divorce, or abandonment. It provides diagnostic evaluations, short- or long-term treatment if necessary, and parent guidance. Barr-Harris staff also make educational presentations and provide consultation to schools, community agencies, hospitals, etc. The Barr Harris website includes books for pre school through high school age children, who can benefit from assistance during the grieving process.
Recommended Reading: Helping Children Overcome Grief
For Preschoolers:
These books are available via Amazon.com or your local book store...
"The Next Place" by Warren Hanson. "The Next Place is an inspirational journey of light and hope to a place where earthly hurts are left behind." For children of all ages.
How I Feel - A Coloring Book by Alan Wolfelt. Dr. Alan Wolfelt's coloring book for kids ages 3-8 explores many of the feelings grieving children often experience.
I Heard Your Daddy Died by Mark Scrivani. Memories, keepsakes and wearing daddy's shirts for sleep shirts are all encouraged.
I Heard Your Mommy Died by Mark Scrivani. Talks about many changes that come and reassures the child that she is loved and will be taken care of.
Saying Goodbye by Jim Boulden. Color-in cartoons, drawings and activities to help children understand the finality of absence while being offered the assurance of the continuity of love.
Books for Elementary Age:
The 10th Good Thing About Barney by Judith Viorst. The book helps children put into words many questions that they might be too young to articulate and helps parents answer them. The wrting is excellent and perfectly captures the voice of a young boy.
I Miss You: A First Look at Death by Pat Thomas. Helps children understand that death is a natural complement to life and that grief and a sense of loss are normal feelings for them to have following a loved one's death. Kids are encouraged to understand personal feelings and social problems as a first step in dealing with them.
Good Grief for Kids - A Journal to Help Children with their Grief by Katherine Zotovich. A journal designed to assist children in coping with their grief during times of loss. Children are encouraged to express themselves through drawing and writing. Has an adult resource section.
Remember...A Child Remembers by Enid Samuel-Traisman. This is a write-in memory book, a healing keepsake journal. There is a place for memories, drawing, the funeral experience and facing going back to school. Good for the "tween".
Last Goodbye, Versions 1 and 2 by Jim Boulden. Designed for ages 8-13 years. It offers information to help a young person understand grief. It also has ideas and activities to help young people process their own grief and look at beginnings as well as endings after a death.
Books for Adolescents:
Facing Change - Falling Apart and Coming Together Again in the Teen Years by Donna O'Toole. Founded on the belief that teens can make effective choices that can transform pain into resilience, this book provides an abundance of information and coping choices to assist the process.
You Are Not Alone: Teens Talk about Life After the Loss of a Parent by Lynn Hughes. Teens reach out to teens and people who care for them with understanding and compassion. Frank testimonials, along with discussion, make this essential for coping and beginning the lifelong process of healing.
Fire in my Heart, Ice in My Veins by Enid Samuel-Traisman. Teens can write letters, copy down lyrics, write songs and poems,tell the person who dies what they want them to know, finish business and use creativity to work through the grieving process.
I Remember You-A Grief Journal by Laynee Gilbert. Moving quotes and comforting advice that will support anyone working through the cascade of emotions that follows the death of someone close. A place to record dreams and special memories, say through letter-writing what was left unsaid, a place for photos and mementos to create a keepsake book.
Straight Talk About Death For Teenagers: How to Cope with Losing Someone You Love by Eric Grollman. Offers advice and answers the kinds of questions that teens are likely to ask themselves when grieving.
Books for Adults Helping Children:
Helping Children Cope with Death by The Dougy Center, The National Center for Grieving Children and Families. The Dougy Center, PO Box 86852, Portland, OR 97286 1-866-775-5683 www.dougy.org This concise book covers basic principles of children and grief, phases of grief, understanding the different age groups in relating to death, common feelings, and how to help as well as pitfalls.
Helping Teens Cope with Death by The Dougy Center. Covers the unique needs of teenagers and ways that you can help them.
Helping Children Grieve and Grow by Donna O'Toole. Booklet to learn about helping children grieve.
Parenting Through Crisis: Helping Kids in Times Of Loss, Grief and Change by Barbara Coloroso. Offers concrete, compassionate ideas for supporting children as they navigate the emotional ups and downs that accompany loss. At the heart of her approach is T.A.O. of Family - time, affection and optimism. Enriched by uplifting humor and insightful anecdotes from her own experiences as a Franciscan nun, mother of three, and thirty years as a parenting educator.
35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child by The Dougy Center. Learn what to expect from grieving children at different ages, how to provide safe outlets for children to express their thought and feelings, and how to support them through the memorial service, holidays and anniversaries.
A Child's View of Grief by Alan Wolfelt. Concise resource explores several key principles for helping children cope with grief. This guide identifies and explains typical behaviors, thoughts and feelings of grieving kids and offers adults tips for responding to them.
These books are available via Amazon.com or your local book store...
"The Next Place" by Warren Hanson. "The Next Place is an inspirational journey of light and hope to a place where earthly hurts are left behind." For children of all ages.
How I Feel - A Coloring Book by Alan Wolfelt. Dr. Alan Wolfelt's coloring book for kids ages 3-8 explores many of the feelings grieving children often experience.
I Heard Your Daddy Died by Mark Scrivani. Memories, keepsakes and wearing daddy's shirts for sleep shirts are all encouraged.
I Heard Your Mommy Died by Mark Scrivani. Talks about many changes that come and reassures the child that she is loved and will be taken care of.
Saying Goodbye by Jim Boulden. Color-in cartoons, drawings and activities to help children understand the finality of absence while being offered the assurance of the continuity of love.
Books for Elementary Age:
The 10th Good Thing About Barney by Judith Viorst. The book helps children put into words many questions that they might be too young to articulate and helps parents answer them. The wrting is excellent and perfectly captures the voice of a young boy.
I Miss You: A First Look at Death by Pat Thomas. Helps children understand that death is a natural complement to life and that grief and a sense of loss are normal feelings for them to have following a loved one's death. Kids are encouraged to understand personal feelings and social problems as a first step in dealing with them.
Good Grief for Kids - A Journal to Help Children with their Grief by Katherine Zotovich. A journal designed to assist children in coping with their grief during times of loss. Children are encouraged to express themselves through drawing and writing. Has an adult resource section.
Remember...A Child Remembers by Enid Samuel-Traisman. This is a write-in memory book, a healing keepsake journal. There is a place for memories, drawing, the funeral experience and facing going back to school. Good for the "tween".
Last Goodbye, Versions 1 and 2 by Jim Boulden. Designed for ages 8-13 years. It offers information to help a young person understand grief. It also has ideas and activities to help young people process their own grief and look at beginnings as well as endings after a death.
Books for Adolescents:
Facing Change - Falling Apart and Coming Together Again in the Teen Years by Donna O'Toole. Founded on the belief that teens can make effective choices that can transform pain into resilience, this book provides an abundance of information and coping choices to assist the process.
You Are Not Alone: Teens Talk about Life After the Loss of a Parent by Lynn Hughes. Teens reach out to teens and people who care for them with understanding and compassion. Frank testimonials, along with discussion, make this essential for coping and beginning the lifelong process of healing.
Fire in my Heart, Ice in My Veins by Enid Samuel-Traisman. Teens can write letters, copy down lyrics, write songs and poems,tell the person who dies what they want them to know, finish business and use creativity to work through the grieving process.
I Remember You-A Grief Journal by Laynee Gilbert. Moving quotes and comforting advice that will support anyone working through the cascade of emotions that follows the death of someone close. A place to record dreams and special memories, say through letter-writing what was left unsaid, a place for photos and mementos to create a keepsake book.
Straight Talk About Death For Teenagers: How to Cope with Losing Someone You Love by Eric Grollman. Offers advice and answers the kinds of questions that teens are likely to ask themselves when grieving.
Books for Adults Helping Children:
Helping Children Cope with Death by The Dougy Center, The National Center for Grieving Children and Families. The Dougy Center, PO Box 86852, Portland, OR 97286 1-866-775-5683 www.dougy.org This concise book covers basic principles of children and grief, phases of grief, understanding the different age groups in relating to death, common feelings, and how to help as well as pitfalls.
Helping Teens Cope with Death by The Dougy Center. Covers the unique needs of teenagers and ways that you can help them.
Helping Children Grieve and Grow by Donna O'Toole. Booklet to learn about helping children grieve.
Parenting Through Crisis: Helping Kids in Times Of Loss, Grief and Change by Barbara Coloroso. Offers concrete, compassionate ideas for supporting children as they navigate the emotional ups and downs that accompany loss. At the heart of her approach is T.A.O. of Family - time, affection and optimism. Enriched by uplifting humor and insightful anecdotes from her own experiences as a Franciscan nun, mother of three, and thirty years as a parenting educator.
35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child by The Dougy Center. Learn what to expect from grieving children at different ages, how to provide safe outlets for children to express their thought and feelings, and how to support them through the memorial service, holidays and anniversaries.
A Child's View of Grief by Alan Wolfelt. Concise resource explores several key principles for helping children cope with grief. This guide identifies and explains typical behaviors, thoughts and feelings of grieving kids and offers adults tips for responding to them.
Recommended Reading: Overcoming Grief for Adults
Recommended Reading: Overcoming Grief for Adults
Recommended Reading: Overcoming Grief for Spouses
Finding Your Way after Your Spouse Dies by Marta Felder.
For Widows Only by Annie Estlund
A Grief Observed by C. S. Lewis.
I'm Grieving as Fast as I Can: How Young Widows and Widowers can Cope and Heal by Linda Feinberg.
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